Girl Code Ethics
By Lucy Cipriani and Lauren Pratt
Girl Code def : Girl code is the unwritten and often unspoken set of rules/ethics that exist between a girl and her best friends. Simply stated, girl code are the commandments that outline the DO's and DON'Ts of a good friendship. Whether the rules are implicit or explicit, they are generally what can make or break a friendship.
The truth is that all of us come across mean girls throughout the course of our lifetime. We come across women who are outrageously competitive, threatened by the success of others, jealous, or just plain petty. We experience women who will be cruel in order to prove their superiority. The world is still not an ideal place for females to be successful without facing many challenges. We are victims of undeniable inequality and rampant sexism everywhere we turn.
When we first hear the term “girl code”, we think don’t ever go after your friend’s ex, and never tell your friend’s secrets. However, the code is so much more meaningful than that. Truly following girl code means that you do everything in your power to support, uplift, empower, and celebrate the women around you. We need to use our voices to stand up for one another, not only in the workplace, but in educational institutions and social situations. The competitive nature of women in this society has diminished the confidence all women deserve to feel. Whether it is competing for a man’s attention, or a promotion at work, we need to work together to ensure the happiness and equality for our fellow ladies. We need to stand with each other, not against each other.
Although society is making progress and the recent feminism wave has been strong, ignorance and disrespect towards women will always exist. This is why girls need to stick together.
Violation of girl code is a common occurrence at Novato High as well, and many female students have witnessed betrayal and disrespect first hand.
Novato High junior Arianna Sabatella described what girl code means to her.
“Girl code to me is when you and your girlfriends respect and support your decisions and actions. If you tell them to not do something, they respect your wishes and listen to you. The number one rule of girl code is to never let a guy come between you and your girls,” explained Sabatella. “Best friends last forever, boyfriends don’t.”
As women, we have enough speculation surrounding us on a daily basis. We are constantly scrutinized for how much we weigh, what clothes we wear, who we date, and who our friends are. There is so much pressure to act or look a certain way, in hopes that we can please everyone around us. We don’t need to add to this.
When women label each other with discriminatory traits such as slutty, ugly, stupid, or easy, it just shows men that it is okay to use these labels as well.
Senior Vanessa Torres believes girls need to stick together and be supportive, no matter what.
“Your friends are supposed to be the ones who always have your back. They are the ones who you should be able to always count on when you are having a tough time,” said Torres.
Girl code should be widespread enough to impact the culture of high schools and middle schools - including both boys and girls - so that each student feels comfortable, safe, affirmed and secure with their confidence. When girls don’t follow girl code, it can lead to unnecessary drama and conflict. In addition, violating girl code can lead to trust issues not just in friendships, but within relationships. Trust issues can be extremely difficult to overcome, and many women struggle to cope with feelings of betrayal and loss.
Honesty is a major key to healthy friendships and relationships. Following girl code allows the females of the world to flourish and become successful in all aspects of life. Women need to stick together to overcome the obstacles of being a female in this society.
If you have any stories about your girl code experience that you would like to share or want any advice, feel free to message us via instagram at @lucyraee & @lauren.pratt1