Dance with Me: Girls Taking Charge
By Emma Wynkoop and Nate Hunter
One minute goes by...no call. Twenty minutes...you pick up the phone, no call. One hour after boldly writing your number on a stranger’s starbucks cup, and there is still no call.
Women have gone through the anxiety of wondering whether or not that special someone will call (or write) for way too long. However, in the meantime, women have advanced in all other aspects of life. They gained the right to own property, the right to vote, and Hillary Clinton was just 38 electoral votes short from becoming the first female president.
So why are we still waiting for the boys to ask us to a dance?
“We live in a progressive era,” said junior Caitlin McMann. “Why should men still have to make a move?”
Ladies let’s take matters into our own hands.
Here are some suggestions for women when approaching the big question.
The Mysterious Hottie: The guy that seems to always make his friends laugh in the back of the class, but is too cool to raise his voice so you can hear the joke too. There’s a good chance that this guy has walls built up, which may be why he hasn’t asked you out yet. The best way to break those walls is to find some common ground. Junior Rhett Allen gave his input on how he would like to be asked. “If I were to get asked, I would want it to involve like a theme that I enjoy, like free-diving,” said Allen.
Materials: Poster board with a catchy phrase, and a snorkel (aka: something unique and personal).
The Bachelor: Maybe he’s the class clown, the quarterback, or just the cutie in your math group. The hardest part about asking this guy is building up your confidence. It’s easy to get caught in the pitfall of, “he wouldn’t want me to ask him” or “he probably wants to go solo,” and psych yourself out. Step one, go to a mirror. Step two, point at yourself. Step three, tell yourself that you are hot stuff and that any guy would be lucky to go out with you. We went to senior Jack Mason for insight. “I think it’d be pretty cool if a young female asked me to formal.”
Materials: Poster board, a slimming mirror, and confidence.
The Amigo: Think about this question: Are you are asking him because you like getting dressed in coordinated outfits or so you don’t look back on your pictures later in life and look pathetic? There are many reasons to ask a guy to a dance as friends, but the challenge is making it clear that it is just a friendship you are seeking. A good way to do this is by talking to him. Communication really is key! Maybe establish boundaries; whether or not it’s okay if you dance with other people and so on. These details are important to remember because blurred lines can lead to feelings of betrayal and disappointment. “I would just want to be asked in a simple fashion,” said junior Kyle Friend. “The more simple the better for me.”
Materials: Poster board with a friend-zoning phrase, and possibly a teddy-bear.
The Boyfriend: Whether you’ve been dating for weeks or months, it is important to make your proposal special. The tricky thing about asking your beau is making it a surprise. Get a group of your friends to help you. Have some friends distract your guy and bring him to the spot of your choice. Some of these spots, depending on the person you are asking, could be at school, the person's favorite lunch place, or a location special to you both. Then, wait there standing with his favorite candy, and leave it up to your friends to do the rest. “I've always wanted to be asked,” said senior Teddy Akers. “It would be so nice and boost my self confidence. All I would need is a funny poster, candy, and a pretty girl.”
Materials: Have your friends wear shirts with the acronym of the dance on them (HC/WF/or simply Prom), and candy.
“It’s breaking the stereotype that guys don’t always need to make the first move and that guys have to ask girls to dances,” said junior Nelly Gruener. “It doesn’t matter and it shows that girls and guys are equal in relationships.”